In addition to acceptance and conscious, compassionate reflection the key for today is Personal Responsibility. Relationships are a two way street. There are often signs that you choose to ignore during the relationship, some obvious, some more discreet. If you are in a state of denial or avoidance you ignore those niggling signs. Underlying fear may prompt you to disregard or overlook, justify or rationalise the signs that make you feel ‘less than’ or leave you grappling with guilt or blame.

Take a moment to recognise the themes and patterns that are repeat features in your relationship. Get curious about the origin of the identified themes and patterns. Indulge in a large dose of self honesty. Recognise and own your part in the sinking ship. Self awareness is a powerful tool for exercising self responsibility and opening the healing pathway.